How are you supposed to end a date that is going horribly? May 4th, 2011, Rita Watkins. It was a day that defined me. It was such an important event in my life. May 4th, 2011, I realised that my life could never get any worse. I had hit rock bottom. No matter what went on in my life after May 4th 2002, it would never compare to the dark day that Watkins entered and left my life.
I am sitting In Pizza Express. I find Pizza Express the safest of all the date venues. You know exactly what you are going to get. You can’t take her for a Hut because you look cheap and you come across as a 13 year old. Likewise you can’t take her anywhere fancy because you will come across as a pretentious prick. She will see you can’t hold a knife and fork and she will see you panic with the array of cutlery that these restaurants offer. At the end of the day all I want is a knife, a fork – preferably a steak knife – and maybe a spoon. Lose all the other rubbish. Why do they give 18 pieces of cutlery in these restaurants? What’s the point? Just because they hire a washer doesn’t mean they have to bombard the poor man with miniature forks.
There is nothing worse than being out of your depth in a fancy restaurant in front of a girl. You have to have multiple courses of pretentious food. You are crying out for steak and chips and maybe some Tommy K. Instead they give you something that you are sure, but that you can’t prove, the chef has threw up on and then they charge you £40 for the ‘pleasure’. And at the end of the meal you get your bill in a book – what’s this about? Is this the story of the dinner? At the beginning there was 18 forks…no Pizza Express is the place to go. Solid enough food, expensive enough that when you pick up the bill you look impressive, but cheap enough that if she wants the Romana base, she can have the Romana base.
So I am sitting in Pizza Express when Rita walks in. I should point out that I hadn’t had a date for 19 months. Things were beginning to get a bit desperate. So long had it been since my last sexual encounter that I had forgotten any ‘moves’ that I may have developed over my sexual life. Confidence was at an all time low. I went through packets of tissues a week and if John Humphreys rung me to get me to do a spin on Mastermind my specialist subject would be ‘ Racks and Blacks’. Girls can sniff out confidence. They can see in one second if you have it. I must be odorless.
It is important that you don’t discuss your recent hobbies (milfhunter) and that you dress suavely (avoid the Puma jumper), act aloof (but not so aloof that you fall off your chair like last time), crack up at her rubbish gags (but not so much that you end up choking on your Vodka Lemon and Lime). Even is she is rough (and she will be) you must say how nice she looks. Invent hobbies, say you do cool things like sail and play chess. Pretend you have gone travelling – not Tenerife but road tripping across South America (even thought I can’t drive). Tell her you work in a charity shop at weekends when all you do is bet and watch Stelling and the boys. Lying is key to getting a second date. The more I lie the more chance I have. If you are honest and be yourself then you may as well get used to Friday nights with Jonathon Ross. The dating game is a minefield. One bad move and you are a dead man.
Rita was a blind date. An internet date. Yes I know horrible lows. Even for me. All I will say is that after 19 months you are ready to take a mutant to the pictures if it will come back with you afterwards. A mutant is an apt word when describing Rita. I had taken a huge risk as I hadn’t seen a picture of Rita. We just chatted through this dating instant messenger. She seemed ok, she had the ability to drive, so I thought she at least earned money or had a great relationship with her dad. She was also breathing i.e. she was a living being – this was good enough for me.
I am sitting down hoping, preying, that Heather from Eastenders doesn’t walk in. Instead Heather’s mum comes and sits down and says ‘Hi are you Stan?’ I could not believe it. This woman must be 60 and it looks like she has eaten the whole cast of Eastenders, including Minty. She smelt so bad that it smelt like not only had she eaten the cast of Eastenders but she then shat them out and smeared them over her face.
She clearly doesn’t believe in dentists, either that or the dentist was on the sauce that day. The smell of her. My word. I swear flies entered the room, buzzed around her and then found her too smelly so moved on. Doritos seemed to have set up base camp on her blouse and after dropping Tiger Woods as the face of Gillette the execs must obviously have turned down Rita as their face of shaving such was the almighty hair that seemed to have covered her whole body. I had never seen a girl with hair before. My word, channel 4 had obviously missed her when casting ‘Britains hairest mutants’. Imagine the worst looking girl in the world, that moment when you hit rock bottom, the moment where you are sick into your soup – whoever that girl is that you are thinking of I can assure you they are a high street honey compared to the disgrace that is Rita Watkins.
I was now faced with an almighty dilemma. I had to get out of this but I couldn’t just get up and leave (she gave me no window otherwise I would have happily of done this). There should be a codeword that men and women are both aware of before the date begins. As soon as the codeword is mentioned you both get up and leave with no hard feelings. I hope Cameron’s Britain will discuss this legislation. Cameron can’t help me now (no surprise there…political). No I had to fake a text. Fake a death. I could say that I got a text from my mum saying my Nan had died. Why would she text me that though?
‘Hi Stan, Hope the date is going well (yes she knows I am on the date) FYI your nan has died. Tb ma x’.
No I’m not sure that excuses washes. Maybe I could fake the phone call, begin crying on the phone ‘Nannna, Nanna, WHY. WHY GOD’. I am good but Hanks I am not. Twenty minutes has passed neither of us have barely spoken. I had to act.
I just had to tell her the truth. It could kill her though. Maybe if I told her the truth and then supplied her with a krispy kreme doughnut – could keep the walrus from crying. Right here we go. I am going to tell her that I just don’t think the date is working. Suddenly she speaks:
‘Stan, you seem like a lovely guy. I really don’t want to hurt your feelings. I have been thinking for the last 20 minutes as to how I can tell you this but I think honesty is the best policy. You are just not my type. I don’t think the date is working. Please don’t get upset. You seem lovely but there’s no point in us wasting our time. I am sorry.’
I could not believe it. Here I was being cast aside by a whale bigger than Willy. Hagrid’s uncle. I am not her type. Just because I am not covered in Jam and edible. How dare she? Have you looked at yourself love? You are a disgrace. Get your Christmas list written early this year and do us all a favour and ask Santa for a Wii fit. I was being dumped by this sorry excuse for a woman.
‘That’s fine. I guess you are right. Take care, I hope you get home safe’. Secretly I hoped she got hit by a bus on the way home. Having said that the bus would bare the brunt of the damage.
With that she left. The date was over. I got the result I was after. I was free, free from her, but it should have been me ending it. I guess I should be careful what I wish for. Rita Watkins left her mark on me (no she didn’t bite me thinking I was food), she made me realise my life had spiraled out of all control. She showed me that my life could not get any worse. I had hit absolute rock bottom. Things could only get better. The problem with girls and boys as I see it is that girls have the hand, they have the power. Even if we think we are in control we are not. I am grateful for Rita Watkins because I knew my life could not get any worse but I just wish I could have got in there before her and used the codeword first.
The curse of the fussy eater
3 08 2011The curse of the fussy eater
I, Stan, have been invited to a dinner party. I have never been to a dinner party before. Normally I just sit in my lounge, and eat my toast and alphabetti whilst flicking between the 7PM Television X and Red Hot Euro Wives freeviews. If I am with the lads then we will all sit there, with our alphabetti, and rate the girls in front of us. If any of us rate any of these clowns too highly then we are permitted to throw our alphabetti at that person. It’s fair to say I live a simple life. A life far removed from a dinner party.
I got an invite through the post from Olivia Abercrombie Smith – a girl who I know from uni. Her name is ridiculous. For some reason she wants to keep her name ‘Abercrombie’ and has just bolted Smith on at the end…slag.
The invite described the menu and the seating plan.
The seating plan read:
Emily Baker
Stan Bennett (why oh why am I head of the table?)
Janice Greer
Morton Hisgaard
Kelly Ann Marie Holmes
Jonathon Rhys Flowers
Olivia Abercrombie Smith
Neil West
Morton Hisgaard?! Looks like a bad hand at Scrabble! This was not good. Not good at all. Wedged between Emily and Janice. I have met these two before and it is fair to say they are on a slightly different intellectual plane to me. I talk about women (page 3), sport (football) and Star Wars. They talk about Emily Pankhurst (some famous old bird), Rowing (they live in Henley) and Astronomy (which is a load of complete bollocks).
There were also four cards inserted each describing that part of the menu. The four cards read:
ANTIPASTI
PASTA & RISOTTO
MAINS
DESSERTS AND CHEESE
I was concerned but not yet shitting my pants. This was about to change.
ANTIPASTI
Courgette and Italian Asparagus Soup with Goat’s cheese and Selvapiana Estate Olive Oil.
What the hell was this? Courgettes…don’t like. Asparagus…don’t like. Goat’s cheese…pretty certain I won’t like. Selvapiana Estate Olive Oil? Do me a favour! What the fuck is Selvapiana Estate Olive Oil? Well immediately I know I am throwing the Antipasti portion of the meal up. I need the Pasta and Risotto part of the menu to be really kind to me. It literally needs to read ‘Toast and Alphabetti’ otherwise I am in grave danger.
PASTA & RISOTTO
Fettuccine with a rich lamb and beef Ragu, Gremolata, Parmesan and Petrolo Estate Olive Oil.
Oh. Dear. God. Straight away I am scared by the word Fettuccine, I jump straight on the internet and do a search to see what it is. A quick Google Image search shows that it is in fact mashed up baby sick. A rich lamb and beef Ragu. I like lamb. I like beef. Yet I know the introduction of this ‘Ragu’ will immediately cause me to vomit all over Janice Greer. I half wonder if I can strike up a deal with Hisgaard and he take my Gremolata and Parmesan off my hands. Fear is really setting in. I need the mains to read ‘Steak and Chips’ otherwise I may as well wave the white flag now.
MAINS
Chargrilled Sea Trout with peas, chilli, mint, parmesan, pea shoots, and amalfi lemon crème freche.
Shit. I hate fish. They freak me out. I can, however, do peas. I am not sure I can ask for my mains to just consist of Peas though. Chilli is a big no unless Baker wants me to shit all over her around desert time. Mint? I am presuming they don’t mean Polo’s here. If not I have never had mint before but I am willing to give it a go given that I have heard of the word. Pea shoots? I used to watch (watched it yesterday) a kids TV program called the Poddington Peas and they lived in Pea Shoots. I do not feel comfortable eating the residence of the Poddington Peas. Amalfi Lemon Crème freche. It sounds horrendous. A Google image search confirms as much.
I don’t even bother to look at the desert card. I look at the next instruction:
DRESS CODE
Men must wear Black Tie.
After taking in the enormity that is the invitation I feel a huge wave of nausea come across me. I try to focus on the TV screen ‘Glorious Grannies’ but it is of no use, the dread is so much that I chuck my alphabetti up all over the carpet.
My palms are sweating. I look ill. I feel ill.
Let’s review. I am wedged between Greer and Baker, opposite Hisgaard. I cannot eat anything except some peas and now I have to wear a black tie? I don’t own a black tie.
I am quickly informed, by my mum, that black tie means a suit with a tie. I.E. I have to dress smart for these bunch of idiots. I don’t own a suit, certainly not one that fits. So I am forced to give serious consideration in wearing my old school trousers and school blazer.
No I will need an excuse as to why I can’t go. An excuse so good that it doesn’t prompt questions, that is so believable that it does not appear made up. That is so well put together that I actually get sympathy. I look around the room for inspiration. A red stained carpet with random letters on the floor. A TV showing a 70 year old in stockings.
On the one hand there is destruction all over the floor, it looks like someone has sicked up a bottle of Heinz. On the other there is a granny doing weird stuff to a toilet brush. Then it hits me…put those two images together…
“Dear Olivia,
Thank you so much for the invite to the dinner party.
It is with sincere regret that I am writing to you today to inform you that I cannot go to the dinner party.
My Grandma was recently involved in a tragic accident. She choked on some food and as she lived alone she unfortunately died.
Thursday is her funeral and as her favourite grandson I have to attend said funeral which means I am unable to come to the house party.
Give my love to Janice, Morton and the gang. I must say the menu looks exquisite. Have a fabulous night.
And I hope you understand.
Best Wishes
Stan”
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